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October 16, 2017

5 Tips for Taming Toddler Tantrums

 

 

Parenting is the hardest thing I’ve ever done. I’ve said it many times and gosh as time passes I seem to get worse at it, or does my child get worse? Just kidding is a mix. Totally kidding now! Parenting is hard and if you are a parent I don’t have to tell you that, but you will also agree that is the most rewarding thing you have ever done and will ever do!

Totally kidding now! Parenting is hard and if you are a parent I don’t have to tell you that, but you will also agree that is the most rewarding thing you have ever done and will ever do!

Parenting is hard and if you are a parent I don’t have to tell you that, but you will also agree that is the most rewarding thing you will ever do!

In most things in life with practice you get better but in parenting is different, every child is different and every stage is different.

Before having Bella I read my share of parenting books, I understood it all, or so I thought and was ready to put it in practice when she was born.  was gifted the most precious girl, with a huge heart and a personality just as big. I often joke that she will be a boss wherever she goes, she will dictate an army and still be their best friend, all of this meaning that my child is hard-headed, though I prefer strong-willed, sounds better right?!

And then, I was gifted the most precious girl, with a huge heart and a personality just as big. I often joke that she will be a boss wherever she goes, she will dictate an army and still be their best friend, all of this meaning that my child as hard-headed as they come. Though I prefer strong-willed, sounds better right?!

But if she is “strong-willed”  I’m even worse so it brings out a very ugly side of me which I had to learn to keep in check.

I had to learn that she is only 2, she may act, talk and walk like a teen but she is only 2 years old and there are ways to handle her tantrums without it becoming a battlefield.

I will share a few things that have worked for us but remember every child is different so what worked for me may not work for you.

Learning to deal with a tantrum

  1. First I prayed and prayed a lot. I had to understand I make mistakes and that I had to change first! I also had to realize that I caused more chaos to her chaotic 2 minutes by screaming or telling her she was going to go to time out rather than being the calm in the storm.
  2. Give them time. I’m not going to tell you to count to 10 because that definitely doesn’t work, at least for me. During the tantrum I ignore it, I gently ask her to stop and if she refuses to listen and ignores it I just let it happen. This is her time. Just like we need 5 minutes every once in a while, this is theirs.
  3. Let them explain, if possible. Remember they cant use words to describe what they are feeling. Bella has been talking for a while and will usually be able to tell me what’s going on, so after her “little session” I ask her to use her words to tell me what she wants or doesn’t want.
  4. Do follow through. This has been the biggest changer for us. If I warned her with a timeout and she didn’t do what I asked, after the crying stops and grab her, sit her in time and tell her why.
  5. Lastly, don’t talk too much. Why? Usually, before actually sitting her in time out I would tell her what she should have done and go on and on (and on) about how I wish she had acted (well hello, she is only two) and ended up distracting her from the actual incident.

I hope these tips will help you or at least give you a good belly laugh as I may be doing it all wrong, but this is what has helped us thus far. You can find more tips and how to apply them to your family by signing up to Boys Town email series. Boys Town (also for girls) believes that every family belongs together and every community deserves to thrive so they have created an email series just for you. These series will help you apply their teachings to your situation with tools and tips.

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