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October 31, 2017

Infant Loss Awareness Month and One Mama’s Story

As the end of the month is upon us I couldn’t let this month end without taking the time to post about Infant Loss Awareness Month. I had alot of difficulty opening up about this after one of the babies I babysat passed away last New Years Eve so I found myself not ready to talk about it just yet, but a close friend will be taking over today and discussing her loss a few years ago.

Sarah and I have been friends for what seems like forever so her is her story.


Miscarriage: My Story, Our Story!

When I was approached by Claudia @WithLoveClaudia to share my miscarriage story, I was honored but at the same time, I questioned how I could put into words such profound pain, avoiding causing any sadness to those reading it. Then I put myself in a reader’s perspective and remember how much relief and comfort I found when others shared their stories with me, it helped me not feel “alone” through such deep valley.

I was 24 when we decided to conceive for the first time. We were nervous but very excited for what was to come. We had been married for a little over 6yrs (your math is right, I was 18). My husband and I always talked about our future, our plans, and nonetheless, children were our heart’s desire. What an exciting journey. The anticipation of what was to come. So many dreams and expectations.

I had a beautiful and healthy pregnancy and God granted me an amazing birth. When I held Bella in my arms it was the most magical moment. Motherhood was taken to another level. That day I found a new profound meaning to it.

Fast forward 4years. We were ready to give Bella a sibling; she had been asking for a baby sister for a while.

When I found out I was pregnant I knew I wanted to make it a surprise for Bella. I went and bought a “best big sister” shirt, put it in a gift box and gave it to her. She cried of excitement, it was such an emotional happy moment. Now let’s surprise daddy! She wore the shirt and we went to show daddy our new outfit. Bella’s giggles are still so present in my mind, she couldn’t contain herself. Daddy was ecstatic!

First doctor’s appointment, everything was great.

First pregnancy was amazing, why wouldn’t this one be?!

14 weeks pregnant. We were getting ready to go to church, on a Friday night. I went to use the restroom and saw I spotted, one tiny streak of blood. I remember feeling cold and this deep sadness just consumed my whole heart. I came to my husband crying, his face could tell it all, the fear in his eyes as he asks “what’s wrong?” He tried to calm me down and reassure everything was fine, it was going to be fine. We took all the precautions, call doctor, lay down, etc. I stopped spotting.

Saturday, was an ok day, no spotting, but my heart could not release this sadness I had deep inside. Is my baby ok? Will everything be ok? Was this the normal spotting many women experiences? So many concerns in my mind.

Sunday morning we go to church and during the worship, I went to the restroom. I was bleeding! It’s not just a streak, there’s blood. I cried uncontrollably. As we get home and call our doctor he tells us to go to the hospital. I remember driving over there fearing what was to come. The whole ride was a big silence, we didn’t have to say a word we knew what our hearts were speaking.

I had all exams done and the doctor comes in and says I have a UTI, that’s probably why I have experienced some bleeding, I needed to see my doctor on Monday. I wasn’t happy with just that, I want to know if everything is really ok? They did an ultrasound, no heartbeat. But no concrete answer, he refused to say I was losing my baby.

Next day I go to the doctor to check my hCG levels. “We’ll call you to let you know the results,” said the nurse. The sweet doctor’s assistant that examined me, embraced me, told me God was in control of it all. She knew, I knew, my husband knew what was going on but we still had hope, I was holding to the hope “all is fine” this is just a scare.

The wait for that one phone call was so agonizing. I received the call. “Sarah, I’m sorry but….” Nooooo, this can not be happening!  Everything just runs in slow motion in your mind but at the same time crashes so fast like a lightning. The pain came from within every single part of my body, from my heart, from my soul. It ached. I wept! In my husband’s arms, we both wept. Sadness just consumed that whole room in my house. I look at him and say “what are we going to tell Bella?” How do we tell our precious little one she won’t be a big sister, that her dream has been taken from her. I didn’t care about my pain, all I cared at that moment was my precious little one, her tiny heart full of dreams and expectations of being the big sister.

At that time she was at pre-school, family members took care of her, while I headed to the hospital to have a D&C (dilation & curettage). Though some women prefer to allow their body to naturally run it’s course, I could not bear the pain of slowly having my body do it’s course, every clot was a reminder that I was gradually losing my sweet baby.

We came back home. Bella was now with us. We asked God for so much strength and words of wisdom to tell her what just happened. We prayed her heart would be comforted. We sat down and my husband, with words that came straight from God’s heart, explained to her our baby was in heaven. She was ok; she was such a strong little girl at that moment. Lots of hugs went on. There was crying but so much braveness. We were so grateful to God she was handling this so bravely.

That same week she had a breakdown in the middle of an aisle at the grocery store. She started crying saying how much she missed the baby.

It’s amazing how much love you have for a tiny being you never met.

I was fragile. I was broken. I was hurt! In moments of silence and absence of all the daily commotion, I cried. I asked God for his strength and peace. Let me tell you He never fails. He is a loving God.

“So do not fear, for I am with you; do not be dismayed, for I am your God. I will strengthen you and help you; I will uphold you with my righteous right hand.” Isaiah 41:10

Though there were times of sadness and tears, we found strength in God. We knew He’s will is perfect! His ways are greater than ours. Even though we might not understand the WHY, because our finite mind does not allow us to comprehend His infinite plans, we knew He was in control.

We live in a world where we will experience sadness, hurt, losses, struggles, but knowing we have a greater God, that overcame death and lives, we can be reassured He is our strength in times we feel dismayed, our shelter and peace in times of raging storms.

So many people showed us their love and support. Support from women that experienced the same loss. We are forever grateful for all those lives that with their sweet words and loving embraces allowed us to heal.

I (we) chose to trust and praise God through my (our) difficult time, our raging storm. I hope that whatever pain or difficult time you might be enduring, that you may find strength in Christ and that your heart may choose to trust and praise Him!

Our little angel will forever live in our hearts but in our Father’s arms!

Xoxo,
Sarah Vieira

 

 

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October 16, 2017

5 Tips for Taming Toddler Tantrums

 

 

Parenting is the hardest thing I’ve ever done. I’ve said it many times and gosh as time passes I seem to get worse at it, or does my child get worse? Just kidding is a mix. Totally kidding now! Parenting is hard and if you are a parent I don’t have to tell you that, but you will also agree that is the most rewarding thing you have ever done and will ever do!

Totally kidding now! Parenting is hard and if you are a parent I don’t have to tell you that, but you will also agree that is the most rewarding thing you have ever done and will ever do!

Parenting is hard and if you are a parent I don’t have to tell you that, but you will also agree that is the most rewarding thing you will ever do!

In most things in life with practice you get better but in parenting is different, every child is different and every stage is different.

Before having Bella I read my share of parenting books, I understood it all, or so I thought and was ready to put it in practice when she was born.  was gifted the most precious girl, with a huge heart and a personality just as big. I often joke that she will be a boss wherever she goes, she will dictate an army and still be their best friend, all of this meaning that my child is hard-headed, though I prefer strong-willed, sounds better right?!

And then, I was gifted the most precious girl, with a huge heart and a personality just as big. I often joke that she will be a boss wherever she goes, she will dictate an army and still be their best friend, all of this meaning that my child as hard-headed as they come. Though I prefer strong-willed, sounds better right?!

But if she is “strong-willed”  I’m even worse so it brings out a very ugly side of me which I had to learn to keep in check.

I had to learn that she is only 2, she may act, talk and walk like a teen but she is only 2 years old and there are ways to handle her tantrums without it becoming a battlefield.

I will share a few things that have worked for us but remember every child is different so what worked for me may not work for you.

Learning to deal with a tantrum

  1. First I prayed and prayed a lot. I had to understand I make mistakes and that I had to change first! I also had to realize that I caused more chaos to her chaotic 2 minutes by screaming or telling her she was going to go to time out rather than being the calm in the storm.
  2. Give them time. I’m not going to tell you to count to 10 because that definitely doesn’t work, at least for me. During the tantrum I ignore it, I gently ask her to stop and if she refuses to listen and ignores it I just let it happen. This is her time. Just like we need 5 minutes every once in a while, this is theirs.
  3. Let them explain, if possible. Remember they cant use words to describe what they are feeling. Bella has been talking for a while and will usually be able to tell me what’s going on, so after her “little session” I ask her to use her words to tell me what she wants or doesn’t want.
  4. Do follow through. This has been the biggest changer for us. If I warned her with a timeout and she didn’t do what I asked, after the crying stops and grab her, sit her in time and tell her why.
  5. Lastly, don’t talk too much. Why? Usually, before actually sitting her in time out I would tell her what she should have done and go on and on (and on) about how I wish she had acted (well hello, she is only two) and ended up distracting her from the actual incident.

I hope these tips will help you or at least give you a good belly laugh as I may be doing it all wrong, but this is what has helped us thus far. You can find more tips and how to apply them to your family by signing up to Boys Town email series. Boys Town (also for girls) believes that every family belongs together and every community deserves to thrive so they have created an email series just for you. These series will help you apply their teachings to your situation with tools and tips.

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October 2, 2017

Nothing Comes Before My McCafé:  A weekend with the everyday

 

This post is sponsored by McDonald’s, but the thoughts and opinions expressed here are my own.

Weekends are our favorite days, and I know I’m not alone in this. It’s the time to spend it with our daddy and the time mama get’s alone time and every so often we even squeeze a mommy and daddy date, yet weekends are also the time where we have to get everything done. We have to squeeze every task that we were not able to complete during the other 5 days of the week into 2 days. And that’s why I have teamed up with McCafé – because nothing comes before coffee, even my weekend to-do list. And with just $2 for any small McCafe, they make it so simple!


Saturday:

Saturdays are without a question my favorite day of the week. I get to sleep in a little longer and get to have my family all to my little selfish self! 😉


Our Saturday usually starts on Friday evening when we make a list of what we have to get done that day. Most of the time is just small things and of course errands, like the post office and church activities, but this weekend, in particular, we had none of that to do. We sold our big dining room table and decided to buy a round one, simple right?! No, we wanted one with a farmhouse look which meant we had to make a DIY, which all in all means 2-3 cups of McCafé, only for me! We left Bella with grandma and picked up some our at local McDonald’s, to find that they had changed their look and added some delicious new espresso drinks, and coming from a yellow lover, guys I’m in love. I got a hot McCafé Mocha and my Sweetums got an Americano.


We headed to pick up the table and met the sweetest man, I’m an extrovert so we ended up talking about all the furniture he had and where they came from he even offered us his wife’s old doll house.  On our way home we picked up the paint and finishes for our table, and of course, we had to stop by and get a few mums, the flower of fall. And the McCafé you see in the picture is definitely not mine, 🙂 I finished mine within 5 minutes, should have gotten a large. It’s my husband’s Americano.


Sunday:

On our way home we picked up some coffee and lunch, again, first things first. This time McCafé brought me some relaxing, much needed “me-time” while Bella napped and daddy completed the finishing touches of the table. This is something I try my best to accomplish every weekend. I work from home and spend every single waking second with Bella attached at my hip, wouldn’t have it any other way but if you’re a work at home mom you know the need for some me time. McCafé does that for me. Whether an Americano, Mocha or a Latte coffee relaxes my every cell and makes me feel at home wherever I’m at.

If you are like me, go by your local McDonalds and enjoy a fresh new look, new espresso drinks, and don’t forget to download the McDonald’s app, you can get your 6th McCafé for free. 🙂 Valid 1/18/17 – 12/31/17. McD App download and registration required. Valid only at participating U.S. McDonald’s. ©2017 McDonald’s


So how do you accomplish your weekends?

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October 1, 2017

The Juice I dont Water Down


When we first become parents we have advice coming from every corner of the universe. Some wanted and well, some thrown at us, but one that was thrown at me from the day Bella turned 1 was to always water down all the juice. Forget about the extra charge for your little energizer bunny but most juices have over 36 grams of sugar. What does that mean for us? Let’s do the math…

4 grams of sugar = 1 teaspoon of granulated sugar.

S0 36 grams of sugar = 9 teaspoons of sugar!

Yeah, no, I don’t want to give that much sugar to my little baby.

Yet, today I’m about to change that for you and your kids will love you for it too.

Let me introduce to you Welch’s new 100% juice with Coconut water. 

Before trying Welch’s new 100% juice with Coconut water I would alway give Bella 2-4 ounces of juice and the rest water. No matter the juice almost half of her sippy was water. She knows is coming and would even request “agua” in her juice.

So why am I telling you to stop? Because Welch’s  new juice is not only 100% juice but also has coconut water and only 100 calories per serving.  Welch’s is cutting the sugar by 30% and only natural fruit sugars.

I feel more than safe giving this juice to my babe and she loves it.

Her favorite is the White grape and Mango and I love the Tropical Berry Grape.

So which one do you love?

Check your favorite store to get yours today!